If you pick up the latest copy of Vogue, the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit edition, or even a men’s magazine like FHM, there are lots of women on view. Women in various states of undress, or in fashion clothing, or on photo shoots. The common denominator is the ‘look’ of the women. They all look slim, ultra fit, toned, and apparently sexy.
Do women really want to look that way? It seems that they do. But why? From a male perspective, a cursory glance through a woman’s magazine is a nightmare. There may be one, and if you’re lucky, two articles. Things like ‘how to find a man’, ‘how to keep a man’, ‘how to be sexy for your man’ and ‘how to look great on your wedding night’. And apart from these eye opening reads, there are nothing but adverts! Adverts for shoes, make up, hair products, the latest fashion clothing, underwear, skin care, female hygiene, jewellery, accessories – the list goes on.
All these items are accompanied by a well made up, well dressed, airbrushed model. It appears that women everywhere, every day, fall for this advertising strategy. Women everywhere buy the latest products so that they can look like a magazine model.
But where is the reality amongst all the glamour? Do women honestly have any idea at all about what men really like?
This is a great subject, the differences between men and women. Men look at magazines. They will look at the gorgeous models. They may even fantasise once in a while about going out with such a model, or someone famous, or an actress. But that’s all it amounts to. Pure fantasy.
Men realise that the girls are made up by professional make-up artists. That their faces and figures are airbrushed to death by the magazine editors. That their hair is invariably blowing in a wind machine. And that the wardrobe designers are pretty good at their jobs.
What women don’t seem to know is that men like ‘real’ women.
A real woman has a career, children, dreams, hopes, faults, and imperfections. A real woman will have a mind of her own, and be able to hold a decent conversation. And for the majority of men, a real woman must have an hour glass figure. Slim, toned women look good in magazines, and what man would not like to be seen out for dinner with a model. Having a model girlfriend might make a man the envy of his friends, but in reality its not that great. (Take it from one who knows).
When your girlfriend is constantly being asked for autographs, pictures with fans, continually being hit on by the rich and famous, or being asked for her number by everyone else, then working out, facepacking every night, pampering herself in ways you can’t imagine, before flying off to some exotic location for a two week photo shoot, the relationship can become a little strained.
Men want reality in bed with them every night. Ideally, a woman who is shapely, good looking, good fun to be with, and who is happy to keep herself that way.
For men, sexy is a woman who can ‘think’ male. If a woman has a male attitude towards life, she is the sexiest thing in creation. If she is confident without being brash, can fight her corner in a discussion, is not afraid of her own sexuality, has a great sense of humour and knows how to use her feminine charms, men will flock to her. Her looks really will not matter, as long as she is comfortable in her own ability. Some of the sexiest women known to man haven’t been the best looking.
Angelina, Megan Fox, Carmen Electra. All great to look at. Probably great to shack up with for a night or two. For men, pure fantasy.
Jennifer Love Hewitt, Rachel Bilson and Britney. Again, good to look at, but these women are a little more real. Still, we are in fantasy land here. Our current girlfriends. As long as they stay the way we like them, that’s the reality that all men are looking for.